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What do I love about: Never Chase Men Again?
I love that this book is quite short and free for Amazon Prime members. It takes you back to the basics and reiterates values you may already know. This is a book I am definitely going to be coming back to as I forage in the dating world.
What do I not love about: Never Chase Men Again?
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Who should read: Never Chase Men Again?
If you are looking to date high-quality man and also position yourself better in any romantic interaction then this is the book for you. It teaches you how to tap into your feminine power and exude that energy that makes men fall head over heels.
Who should not read: Never Chase Men Again?
If you don’t believe in the conventional dating principles or you are looking for cheap relationships. This is not a book for you
Notes from Never Chase Men Again
- Since self-confidence without cleverness can only go so far, the most reliable weapon a woman has when it comes to dealing with men is the strength of her own personal boundaries regardless of the situation.
- When a high-quality man comes across a woman with strong personal boundaries, her self-respecting behavior wildly increases her level of attractiveness-the kind of attractiveness that makes him consider her a woman worth committing to. The reverse is also true in that a woman with weak personal boundaries will exhibit the kind of needy or desperate behavior that will compel a man to see her as nothing more than a hookup or short-term love interest to distract himself.
- Men rarely admit this, but they want to want your attention. In other words, men want to desire a woman just as much or even more than a woman wants to be desired by a desirable man. But if access to you is super easy and your attention is super cheap, guys are going to get bored with you very quickly.
- Men with even an iota of sagacity will avoid getting into relationship with a woman who insist that she is always the victim when it comes to her dating history. I think the classic saying is perfect advice for discussing your exes on dates with men you are getting to know. If you do not have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all.
- Fortune favors the bold, however do not be afraid to show your love and loyalty to a man after he’s begun to show you a definite romantic interest.
- Don’t let your past be a club that beats you over the head every single day of your life, let it be a teacher instead. Have the courage to love and be loved, despite your past.
- Men are less equipped to deal with disrespectful woman in the same way in which women are less equipped to deal with an unloving man. Keep this in mind as you interact with the men you date.
Summary of the 38 dating secrets to get the guy, keep him interested and prevent dead-end relationships
- Never be too accessible. Before a serious relationship develops, do not allow yourself to be too available to a man as men quickly tire of that which is easily obtained.
- Be cautious in how you keep in touch with a man. Do not dominate the initiations of contact if you want to keep his interest in you both elevated and unmistakable.
- Prioritize phone calls over texting.
- Don’t be a flake.
- Do not speak ill of your exes, especially if you are getting to know a guy.
- Never risk self-respect by trying to force a man to take an interest in you. It is better to disregard a man who displays a wavering interest than to lose both your dignity and sanity fighting for his attention.
- Before a man has judged you as a ‘worthy pursuit’ in his mind, it is wise to show restraint in displaying your infatuation.
- Show flexibility and be easy-to-please.
- Be willing to show your vulnerable side.
- Once a man proves to be worth your love, cease any timidity in showing it by concentrating your efforts on escalating his emotional attachments to you.
- Do not confuse a great guy with the right guy. A man might be an irresistible catch and yet he may still not be ready or willing to give you the commitment you want. Appraise the men you date based on both their inner qualities and the compatibility of your commitment goals.
- Do not diminish the value of your love by lavishing it freely upon a mere casual suitor. Female devotion, when a man has not yet earned it, is not perceived as “devotedness” in his eyes….it is seen as desperation.
- Set your standards high and be willing to assert yourself and defend your personal boundaries with the men you date.
- Never sacrifice your deepest passions in life just to keep a man interested in you.
- Do not tolerate men who feel the need to conceal you from world.
- Do not rob a man of the opportunity to be captivated by you because of your determination to attain a commitment.
- Do not allow a man’s love for you to stagnate because of your own unawareness or complacency. Use the possibility of your absence in his life to stir a man to action when his desire is weakening.
- Never act exclusive with a guy who’s still looking to keep his options open. If his attitude towards commitment seems cavalier…carry your business elsewhere.
- Do not fall into the trap of believing men when they tell you they have “commitment problems”.
- Ensure that you accept how men actually are when it comes to sex rather than how you wish men were. Base your expectations in reality then adapt your dating strategy.
- Allow your attraction to male behavior to mature so that a man’s aloofness while it may excite you, does not train you to chase him.
- Stay positive as you search for the right suitor.
- Be graceful when communicating with men. The masculine heart is helpless in the presence of a woman whose language is tender and respectful.
- Embrace your inner vixen.
- Do not become complacent with your appearance after you have attained an exclusive relationship.
- Do not verbalize your insecurities in such a way that its sabotages a man’s perception of you.
- Resist the urge to seek constant and excessive approval of a man’s loyalty, especially after he has already committed to you.
- High-quality men have low tolerance for seemingly manipulative and/or egocentric women. Resist the urge to communicate your courtship expectations of a man prematurely.
- Deserve what you want. Pursue feminine sophistication and refine both your character and personality to become a woman of higher value.
- Resolve to be a woman who only dates men of higher quality, as a reputation for dating dissolute men can come back to haunt you.
- Demonstrate high-value when you respond to his invitation to date casually. Never let a man’s rejection, whether of you or a relationship, cause you to lose your poise and power.
- Do not move in with a man.
- Do not date a married man.
- Be a man’s ‘mountain’ not his ‘stepping –stone’.
- Date with a clear purpose in mind.
- Guys who dump you should no longer exist.
- Do not try to be “one of the guys”. Learn to make friends with women and resist adopting masculine tendencies.
- Date as if you believe, without a shadow of doubt, that you truly deserve a man’s unconditional love. You must believe and therefore act like you are a prize worth pursuing by a high-quality man.