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What do I love about: Advice on love and life?
Like the columnist name sugar, this book is filled with lots of sugar. Cheryl collates letters from her many years as a columnist. Honest, humorous letters that cuts across all issues of life. From love to sex, family, loss, friendship, money, career, and religion. What make this an even more riveting piece is that Cheryl shares her deepest personal experience across these issues. The loss of her mother, her marriage and relationship heist. Cheryl does not tell you what to do but helps you arrive at that all on your own. Isn’t that wisdom?
Sugar Sugar Sugar!
What do I not love about: Advice on love and life?
Zilch
Who should read: Advice on love and life?
Anyone looking for a light read filled with wisdom on a variety of life issues.
Who should not read: Advice on love and life?
None that I can think of.
Notes from advice on love and life?
- The only way out of a hole is to climb out
- Nobody will protect you from your SUFFERING
- Be BRAVE enough to break your own heart
- Inhabit the BEAUTY that lives in your beastly body and strive to see the beauty in all the other beast
- ACCEPTANCE is a small quiet room
- ROMANTIC LOVE is not a competitive sport
- Trust your self means living out what you already know to be true
- Every last one of us can do better than give up
- FORGIVENESS doesn’t just sit there like a pretty boy
- The thing about rising is we have to continue upward. The thing about going beyond is we have to keep going
- If you continue using tactic in your romantic relationships with women, you are going to stunt not only your happiness, but your life
- Withholding distorts reality. It makes the people who do the withholding ugly and small-hearted. It makes the people from whom things are withheld crazy and desperate and incapable of knowing what they actually feel
- My biggest fear is being alone and never finding anyone that measures up
- The only way to find out if you “have it in you” is to get the work and see if you do
- The only way to override your limitations, insecurities, jealousies and ineptitude is to produce
- The unifying theme is ‘RESILIENCE’ and ‘FAITH’. The unifying theme is being a warrior and motherfucker
- The complicated things about friends is that sometimes they are totally right about us and sometimes they are totally wrong. And it is almost always in retrospect that we know which is which
- HELL is other people’s boyfriend
- FORGIVENESS forces an impossible internal face-off between you and the woman you hate
- The future has an ancient heart
- It fails to acknowledge that the other half of rising- the very half that makes rising necessary-is having first been nailed to the cross
- You don’t have the right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt
- Don’t let your need be the only thing you will show. It will scare people off. It will misrepresent how much you have to offer. We have to be whole people to find whole love, even if we have to make it up for a while
- Every life has a sister ship one that follows quite another route than the one we ended up taking. We want it to be otherwise, but it cannot be: the people we might have been live a different, phantom life than the people we are
- When you feel terrible because someone has gotten something you want, you force yourself to remember how very much you have been given. You remember that there is plenty for all of us, remember someone else’s success has absolutely no bearing on your own, remember that a wonderful thing has happened to one of your peers and maybe, if you keep working and if you get lucky, something wonderful may also someday happen to you
- Choose to love with all your intelligence
- It is good you have worked hard to resolve childhood issues while in your twenties but understand that what you resolve will need to be resolved again and again, you will come to know things that can only be known with the wisdom of age and the grace of years. Most of those things will have to do with forgiveness
- You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it.
- When you meet a man in the doorway of a Mexican restaurant who later kisses you while explaining that this kiss doesn’t mean anything because, much as he likes you, he is not interested in having a relationship with you or anyone right now, just laugh and kiss back. Your daughter will have his sense of humor. You son will have his eyes